Erykah Badu Goes OFF on her fans!!!

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This is Erykah Badu’s response to recent criticism about have 3 Baby Daddies!!

HOW DARE YOU DISRESPECT THE QUEENDOM
HOW DARE YOU DISRESPECT THE QUEENDOM

Erykah Goes off!!!

Erykah Goes off!!!


…AND MY CHILDREN AND MY INTELLIGENCE.

ive never been so disgusted in all of my life .
there is no other place i used to enjoy more .
i post no where else .
you guys have taken an all time low , tho.

I’LL STATE MY PEACE

i am a great mother and care giver to my 2 children and to this world .
my children are 2 of the kindest and happiest people i have met.
I home schooled them and taught them the ways of good to the best of my ability.
i am their doctor and their nurse .
and even sometimes their mother and their father.

i am an excellent mother and resent all of the negative comments and insults on my character.
I PUT MUCH TIME AND THOUGHT INTO HAVING AND RAISING MY CHILDREN.
IVE HAD THE HONORS OF HAVING 2 HOME BIRTHS AND 2 WONDERFUL PARTNERS BY MY SIDE.

every relationship i have been in was because i loved the person DEARLY and was dedicated to us “exclusively” FOR A NUMBER OF YEARS.

the fathers of my children are my brothers and friends .
we have a great deal of respect for one another and always will.
WE LOVE OUR CHILDREN TO NO END.
we took our own “vows” and CONTINUE TO UPHOLD THEM.
AND THAT IS WHAT THAT IS .

question?
WHAT IS MARRIAGE ?
WHO IS THE JUDGE?
WE ONLY UNDERSTAND THE EXAMPLES WE ARE GIVEN ( well sort of)

WOULD IT “LOOK BETTER ” TO MARRY AND DIVIORCE AND MARRY AGAIN ?
WOULD THAT BE MORALLY CORRECT ?
WHATS THE DIFFERENCE ? the government’s involvement i guess.
IDEALLY , IT WOULD BE EXCELLENT TO FIND THE MAN OR WOMAN WHO FULFILLS YOUR SPIRIT AND STAY FOR EVER AND EVER ( thru sickness and health till death do us part ) AND HAVE HEALTHY STRONG CHILDREN AS A RESULT OF A HEALTHY AND STRONG UNION.
(this CAN happen … we need much training , however.)

OR

IS IT REALLY “GOOD” TO STAY IN A RELATIONSHIP WHERE BOTH PARTIES ARE UNFULFILLED , LONGING FOR RELIEF , BRINGING one another down as a result of improper training , creating BAD ENERGY AND EXPERIENCES FOR THE CHILD TO REPEAT ?
(not to mention breeding deceit and anger and resentment )
SEEMS TO CREATE FEARFUL CHILDREN WHO TURN INTO FEARFUL ADULTS .

HOW MANY OF YOU GREW UP IN 2 PARENT HOMES THAT WERE MISERABLE AS FUCK ?
OR 2 PARENT HOMES THAT WERE NOT PERFECT BUT WORKED?
HOW MANY GREW UP IN ONE PARENT HOMES WHERE THE MOTHER WORKED HARD TO MAKE SURE YOU WERE CARED FOR BUT SHE WASNT QUITE HAPPY?
HOW ABOUT A HOME WHERE THE FATHER WAS THE MAIN CARE GIVER AND DID THE BEST HE COULD -LACKING NURTURE?
HOW MANY OF YOU HAVE A SIBLING THAT HAS A DIFFERENT FATHER OR MOTHER?
DOES HE OR SHE MEAN LESS TO YOU?
HOW MANY OF YOU HAVE MORE THAN 1 MOTHER OR FATHER OF YOUR OWN CHILDren ?
HOW MANY OF YOU HAD /OR / ARE PARENTS RESPONSIBLE ENOUGH TO MAKE GOOD DECISIONS FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR CHILDREN ,THAT DONT QUITE FIT ANY OF THESE DESCRIPTIONS?
HOW MANY OF YOU STAY IN UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS FOR FEAR OF GOING TO HELL?
HOW MANY HOS OUT THERE … THAT HAVE KIDS TO GET A PAYDAY?
HOW MANY PEOPLE GETTING THEY ASS KICKED AND ARE FORCED TO SUBMIT CAUSE YO MAMA GOT HER ASS KICKED?
THEN WHAT is CORRECT?

how about this:

I PRAY WITH MY CHILDREN
I FEED THEM GOOD FOOD
THEY RESPECT PEOPLES DIFFERENCES
THEY TRAVEL THE WORLD WITH ME
THE KNOW WHO THEY ARE
THEY ADORE THEIR FATHERS AND ARE LOVED BY 2 PARENTS OR MORE –
OR TWO OR MORE SETS OF LOVING GRANDPARENTS
THEY CRY
THEY GET HURT
THEY GET SICK
THEY HEAL

THEY ARE real

THEY ARE NOT AN IDEA or a TOPIC
AND NEITHER AM I .
I AM ALIVE .
I AM BEAUTIFUL WOMAN.
I AM A GOOD WOMAM.
I AM GROWING
I AM COMPLETE WITH OR WITHOUT A PARTNER AND WILL ALWAYS BE
AND I HAVE DREAMS OF A FAMILY STRUCTURE
ALL OF MY DREAMS DO NOT COME TRUE
AND DESPITE ALL OF THE PAIN IN MY LIFE …
IN MY MOTHERS LIFE …
IN MY GRANDMOTHERS LIFE
WE HAVE ALWAYS ENDURED
AND THERE IS SO MUCH JOY TO BE EXPERIENCED.
I NEVER HAD A FATHER AND I DONT KNOW WHAT THAT FEELS LIKE –
BUT MY CHILDREN DO , AND THEY LOVE THEIR ‘PARENTS’ .

WE ARE THEIR CHAMPIONS .

live how you want . follow which ever pattern YOU like .
MY CHILDREN WILL BE LEADERS
and they will not ever be slaves to this society’s failing idea of morality.
THEY OWN THEIR MINDS AND THEIR DREAMS.

BIRTH CONTROL lol … could have 10 babies instead of 2 .

I LOVE CHILDREN AND I WILL HAVE AS MANY AS GOD WILL GIVE ME .

I AM VERY HEALTHY AND RESPONSIBLE AND SO ARE ALL OF MY PARTNERS

I CHOSE THEM WISELY AND SOBERLY .

ALL GOOD BROTHERS .

your opinions lack experience and are not only careless but also very uninformed and immature.

nothing is sacred here . and i see why.

if i loose you as a fan because i want to continue to have children then
F*CK OFF… WHO NEEDS YOU ….CERTAINLY NOT ME … KICK ROCKS … CALL TYRONE … PACK LIGHT …. BITE ME

i have defended myself here ON THIS SITE and hurled a few insults .. but only in response to your insults of
my music , my clothes , my lyrics , my hair , my being a woman , my spirit, my choices of partners….
these have all been on trial here . and i continued to support the energy of this place .

this is to all the okay players / REAL HUMAN BEINGS hiding behind screen names in order to insult one another and who ever else you will.

geeeez…
i had to say something
i am so sad for parents who try , today guys
enough is enuf.

dont judge to quickly , OKAY PLAYER?

i know you are having fun , but what if it were you and your children?
my son is 10 .
my daughter, 4 .

peace

ANALOGUE GIRL

and if this post is not clear
kiss my placenta.

Here to tell it like it T-I-Tiz!!!

WHAT THE FANS ARE SAYING!!!

AN INTERESTING TAKE!!

Please read my take!!!

“THIS IS A DISCUSSION ABOUT CELEBRITY BIAS…IF YOU DO NOT WANT TO DISCUSS IT…THEN DON’T COMMENT IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO DISCUSS IT PLEASE COMMENT BELOW.” –TIIZ

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  1. Two words…….PREACH SISTA!

    Kudos to Erykah for defending her children and her lifestyle. I couldn’t begin to type the thoughts that would plague me if my family were attacked by some social miscreant.

    Forever a FAN!

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  2. Are fans “attacking” Erykah or are they giving their opinion about a woman who is suppose to reflect positivity. I’m afraid you can’t have the best of both worlds.

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    • Yeah she proclaims she is a leader as are her kids and super spiritual but she went out and got her white girl nose…GTFOOH! After seeing that new nose, Erica has lost credibility as far as i am concerned. She followed the rest of those “I hate my black nose” broads and hit up Mr. 90210. Fake!

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  3. While i am 7 days late…. (in response to this post) I understand her anger and emotions towards her fans, she is not a normal celebrity, she is not britney spears, she is not lil kim, she has never portrayed herself as a whore or a slut but yet people continue to talk about her like she is running outside everyday to greet the paparazzi, Erykah Badu, the one who wrote and is still writing all the music these fans still listen too is a real PERSON, she doesn’t go shopping in million dollar stores, she doesn’t do what these white celebrities do, therefore she deserves respect. Her children have ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with her image, she has never exposed them to the public like most celebrities do, in fact she is sheltering from that “world” where they will be forced to conform to the world’s way of thinking. Erykah badu as my mother, that right there would be a blessing. I don’t care about what happens in her personal life and neither should anyone else. Her music gives life, so count that as one her children.

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  4. Djarum,

    In a perfect world…artists are not role models. However, this is not a perfect world. With so many young women looking up to Erykah (her fans) as you pointed out…setting a better example may be in order. I’m not sure HOW you know where she shops and how much she spends are you using that a as an indication that she is a positive role model for you? Celebrities know that there is no such thing as a “personal life.” It comes with being a celebrity so does the fact that someone WILL model your behavior. Being talented does not absolve you from social responsibility. I just can’t agree that I need to have a child with every person I make a cosmic connection with. If I did that –whoah..remember the old lady that lived in the shoe? Thanks for your comment

    But…I just have to tell it like it T-I-Tiz!!!

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  5. I am a long-time fan of Erykah Badu. I’ve loved her music from the inception and I’ll love her music till the end. I can appreciate that E. is a grown ass woman and capable of making decisions about her life. I can appreciate the lioness coming to the defense of her cubs. I can even appreciate that she has the gumption and the heart to stand up for herself under fire. What I cannot appreciate however is the cavalier attitude and ideals about sex and relationships. This is not setting a good example for her children or the thousands of youngsters that listen to her music. Mrs. Badu’s post, though it had it’s good points, is nothing more than a justification and a defense for her irresponsible behavior and promiscuality. Let’s call a spade a spade boo. Yes E., you may be a good and nurturing mother, but a child needs stability and both parents front and center every day of their young lives. You know that. No, not all people come from a the “perfect family situation,” but that doesn’t mean that you should stop trying to plant the roots or build the foundations of the family unit. How can you build a future with a cracked and segmented foundation? Our people, now more than ever, need to understand this fundamental principal. Your rationale Colleen is one rooted in hurt, self-doubt, fear, and anger. Come on ma. Come on. Who are you trying to convince? Us or yourself? This is real talk. I’ve been here and done this, and I know how you feel. Drop the facade. You are embarrassed, and feeling a little diminished. Any woman in your position naturally would be. More real talk. Some of your words come from a place of love for your children, but others come from that wounded place in a woman’s heart where shame, disappointment, self-loathing, bitterness and four letter words reside. The ladies know that place I’m talking about. That place where a woman stores those feelings after being cheated on, abused, pimped, denied love and encouragement or all of the above. Erykah I’m not judging you, but I am offering some advice. 1) Forgive yourself and know that you are selling yourself short. 2)Stop making your children suffer the consequences of your decisions. Though Seven will love you all his days, he should not ever have to defend his mother’s honor and virtue. And believe me, the time will come. Puma is your image and is watching and immulating everything that you do. Ask yourself the question, do you honestly want your baby girl to immulate your current lifestyle? I’d wager the answer is no.

    Respect and love

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  6. I LOVE ERYKAH BADU AND FROM WHAT SHE HAS SAID MAKES ME LOVE HER EVEN MORE THIS LADY IS TOO FUCKIN AMAZING I CAN’T WAIT TILL I GET TO MEET HER AND TIZ HOW IS SHE HAVING THE BEST OF BOTH WORLDS SHE IS LIVING HER OWN LIFE AND OTHA MUFUCKAS WHO DON’T FUCKIN MATTER TRYNA GET UP IN HER WORLD OBVIOUSLY IF SOMEBODY GOT SOMETHING TO SAY negative ABOUT YOUR PREGNANCY OBVIOUSLY THAT NIGGA/ CHIC WHATEVER CARE too much about your bizz. SO IF YOU DON’T LIKE IT PEACE MUhFUCKA. PEACE HAVE A NICE DAY.

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  7. I AGREE WITH DJARUM…… COULDN’T HAVE SAID IT BETTER…

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  8. When you look at the age difference in her children, it should be clear that she isn’t just running around getting pregnant by any and everyone. Also, there are people who have been married 3 and 4 times over the duration of her oldest child’s life. Is that a good thing? I don’t think so. I think she is intelligent enough ( excuse me) beyond most people’s intelligence to knowledge herself enough to think past most of the bullshit that society has planted in most people minds which are used minimally. She is a strong woman. One problem..there is a shortage of men who could compliment her and most black women for that matter. There are generations before me that have endured relationships so that things would “look” right. To whom? For what? In the name of domestic violence? sexual abuse by relatives? So “people” will not think /see/know who they truly were. Oh i see, people should live in fear and regret for the good of all people? hahaha

    Many bloggers have referenced her age. You silly simple people…maturity and age do not always correspond. I know some 5o year old idiots and i know some 22 year old intellects with pure souls full of wisdom.
    She is a thinker, an entrepenuer, earth, true mind, true spirit….and damn it! She should not have to be subject to additional stress while she is bearing a child because some self righteous individuals want to throw stones which their ” religious” selfs.

    If you are paying such close attention to her…..Do you listen to her music? if so….then why are you buying into the American Promise?

    *shakeshead* at all the grown bodies with juevenille minds who call themselves adults/grown folk

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  9. It just goes to show how people firing off about Famous people forget that they are just that,
    people

    people make mistakes, people get angry people have babies before marriage. Its not fair to put Erykah up there on a pedestel because she is famous. She is human. as the bible says take the plank out of your own eye before telling erykah about the splinter in hers.
    Sure I am sure she would have loved to have one relationship that works for life as she said. don’t we all. but even as christians you can’t account for others behavour, you keep looking down your nose at people that have had failed relationships and soon enough you will have a few of your own to start dealing with. thinking badly of others is a curse. stop judging others!!
    Erykah is a blessing and she doesn’t need to defend herself. if she feels upset, ashamed of any part of her past, then that is her business. not ours. as fans we own one thing – listening to her music, not her life.

    those who have posted badly, what have you done to change the world?
    I like the fact that she admits she is still on her journey.

    Rise above it Erykah, and use your talent for Gods Glory.

    I have only one comment about your post Erykah, you do not need to defend yourself to anyone. It is beneath you to do so
    x

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    • How many times can you make the SAME mistake? Children should not be created as “mistakes” I’m just tellin’ it like it T-I-Tiz!!!</strong>

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  10. I recently heard about somebody who made an inquiry on victims of torture. The result was, that these victims of torture who had not told everything the tormentors wanted to hear, have survived in OK mental states. But those who had exposed everything were mentally destroyed.
    In other words I do not think it is necessary to explain for Erykah why Erykah is a good mother because at the end it is nobodys business except the family self.

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  11. Wait, thats a woman??? You’re kidding right?

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  12. retardedgenius7

    yeah tiiz
    you are a disagreeable.
    there is so much work to be done.
    in so little time/you have a platform to provide information…massively
    and you use it for the character deformation of an entity who is adding on to the love/heal/music energy we all so desperately need right now
    its unfair when YOU arent in the spotlight /your every move scrutinized /to judge those who ARE!! we cant see your fuck ups/ nor would we give a fuck IF we did. TOO BUSY HAVING GREAT IDEAS!!! its fun….you should try it… get focused…..heal YOU….. the time is yesterday.

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    • “Disagreeable” about what? I have not “derformed” or better yet DEFAMED anyone’s character. If you feel that way that’s unfortunate. This is a discussion platform and we here choose to discuss. If you read my OTHER article on Erykah that’s linked above, you will find that my pet peeve is whining about fame. You DO NOT have to be famous…it’s a choice. With that choice comes the price of public opinion. We should have public opinion when people have the ability to “massively” share information with others. Erykah too has this role.

      I really wish I could understand the last paragraph of your comment…I will say this. The door to fame is wide open for anyone who wants it…including you if you so choose. If you choose it…use your fame wisely…cuz if you don’t come back here and you will see that I will STiLL be…

      Tellin’ it like IT T-I-Tiiz!!
      just like your granny!!! about you!

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      • Being an True Artist is NOT a choice….it a natural occurrence that must be fulfilled if you are so ordained. Our very happiness/livelihood depends on it. Being famous is a side effect to being Good at what ever ure art form is…..If American POP Culture was a machine that could actually be controlled, I’m almost positive that most Artists would rather just have their accomplishments/work noted, collect the check, and continue to create……Fame is not a choice in all cases, Its nor the apex or the goal. Most True Artist would still be/do them selves even if no one was watching…

  13. tiiz says has a very self-righteous opinion. who says that these children are mistakes? KNOW THIS!!!! ONLY GOD CAN GIVE LIFE AND NO LIFE IS A MISTAKE OR WASTED!. Though I don’t agree with all of Ms. Badu’s statements I respect that she and she alone will have to deal with the choices she has made. No parent is perfect as proof I offer the fact that many commenting here were not taught by their parents that celebrities should not be celebrated and are not role models for anyone. I am teaching my daughter to look to the Word and seek the God for all of her answers. society today seeks to crucify others for its own self loathing and poor self-esteem. instead of worrying about a woman is self-sufficient, not on any public assistance and who is actively trying to do something positive for the youth of her community why don’t you righteous people do something in yours. isn’t it funny how those who squawk the loudest isn’t and will never do a damn thing for their community at large? if you don’t like her message then you get out there and shine – do as much or more to get your point across. how many young women have you mentored ? how many have you helped to educate? if the answer is zero then SHUT UP!!!! Jesus said it best when he called the Rabbis and religious leaders of his day ‘a brood of vipers’. Put up or shut up and get out of the way.

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    • CeceRaja…You didn’t quote what I said to back up your comment about me being “self-righteous” aren’t you being self-righteous with YOUR comment? What “Mistake” are you referring to? I didn’t write ANYthing about a mistake. Please reread article. Better yet, reread the FIRST article. Then I’ll be willing to involve you in the discussion. Because someone has a wealth of money that makes their decision making skills better than some else’s. Did you see…A family that Prey’s…money can really do damage to families. Some of the best decision-makers I know had very little money. I hope you teach your children that money doesn’t necessarily mean good sense (ie…George Bush). There are too many youth without the love and guidance that you are providing for your child. These are the ones who will search for role models where they can get them…in the public lime light.

      Did you read my earlier article. I love Erykah to death…I believe that as an artist she may suffer b/c her message may not necessarily mesh with her persona. Please see earlier comment. What a great question you have for me… I actually mentor groups of young women regularly on HIV/STDS/Cervical Cancer. So that you know, African American women make up 65% of ALL NEW AIDS CASES in the U.S. We only make up roughly 6% of the population. We are dying from promiscuity. We are dying b/c we don’t want to “judge.” Your daughter is one of the main ones at risk for virtue of her being a young black girl. The men that she dates…will put HER most at risk. We have these discussions all the time…The message that Erykah is sending them…is killing them!! I know young women with HIV and they would tell you the SAME thing.

      I tell you this out of love. We have to change our mindset. We can’t just be silent. Jesus himself was upset when the Rabbis were silent and they were misusing the temple as a place for gambling etc. He beat them himself…what the Rabbis should have done. If I shut up…so many of our daughters will die.

      I have to tell it like it T-I-Tiiz! Because you need me to.

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      • yvonnenicolejacksoninomahane

        This is a cry for help it is not a time for judging or ridiculing who are you? Have you done things right all the time? Regardless of if you have 3 different babies daddys or not there is a bigger agenda at hand the psychological mind of the black man and woman. We need to assist and console not beat each other down, you know the woman is a healer and she is trying to help these brothers find the light the brothers arent ready. She loves hard I love hard…

  14. Soul sista Erykah…her wisdom surpasses many of her fans’ mental capabilities…they can’t handle…as we create bubbles called our “selves” filled with beliefs and ideas that aren’t ours. Ones that were instilled in us as children… This notion of family structure is a tricky one.. Coming from a single-parent home..father no where to be found.. classic case… I had food, shelter and the opportunity to grow… I take that over fighting parents, a melancholic father, experiences of betrayal.. negative vibes created from dissatisfaction etc… Would I have loved to have a father present and been daddy’s little girl? Hell yah! But oh well it wasn’t in the stars for me.. the lack has brought me to where i am now.. a good place.. a good person.. healthy and a believer in oneness and love…

    The sun was my father…kept me warm, gave me light and nutrients… different fathers.. and what?! what is lost? A sense of security?.. Security.. that comes from within…

    Don’t you worry about Ms. Badu.. Turn in and look to yourself.. take those blinders off your eyes.. tell your created ego to chill.. re-introduce yourself to …yourself..worry about that…really start thinking about your own situation.. say it all out loud to yourself.. does it sound sweet?

    cool out on the stone throwing …. and throw some love and respect..

    one

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    • Zeeka,

      What if you had a choice of a loving family (with a father) vs the one you had. I too grew up w/o a biological father. I understand your resolve as to the latter but that’s the sour grapes scenario isn’t it? It would’ve been bad anyway if he had been around? I’m glad to hear that you understand what a great feeling WE BOTH missed out on. I believe I’m too am trying to be the BEST person I can be and help others around me. We should try to AVOID the mistakes of our mothers though don’t you think? Because of my experience I wanted to bring balance into my child’s life (didn’t happen) and we’re o.k. What’s better than driving a car that gets us from point to point B? Driving a nice car that gets us from Point “A” to Point “B”.

      No stones are being thrown. Please QUOTE the stone throwing?!! This is a “Discussion” if you would NOT like to participate you can always refrain from commenting although I enjoyed your comment. If someone were down the street shaking someone else’s child would you just walk away? and don’t throw a stone? I wonder…

      Thanks for your comment…But you know I had to tell it like it T-I-Tiiz!

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  15. tiiz, if Erykah doesn’t see her children as mistakes then what right do you have to

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  17. Word! Erykah will always have a special place in my heart! Keep disresspecting her if you will. But she wont go down that easy. Beeing the strong woman that she is.
    Stong words.

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    • Ceciia,

      She has earned a special in your heart b/c she has done WHAT for you? This exemplifies my point. Are you following her lead in other aspects of your life as well? Be a leader NOT a follower, I’m positive that you have more going for yourself than that. Where has Erykah been disrespected? She is a celebrity and this is a discussion about her PUBLIC rebuttle…if you don’t want to participate…DON’T!

      I’m just Tellin’ it like it T-I-Tiiiz! –b/c I have to.

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  18. I love Erykah’s music. Most likely I always will. She’s an artist, but most importantly, she’s human. I don’t judge, simply cause I don’t enjoy being judged. I support all, dispite differences. Makes life colorful instead of black and white(sometimes grey). Everything we know, has been taught to us and not self taught. In this world, there needs to be more self taught, meaning think more for yourself, then thoughts stemmed from someone else’s beliefs. I love having a free mind even though I suffer more for it. Can’t understand why people continue to get upset over the way others choose to live their lives. They’re not asking you to live that away!!!

    I don’t know Badu on a personal level. So I don’t speak as if I do!!

    Love her music, because it’s empowering, inspirational and that I can relate to the lyrics. She’s one of the few Afro-Americans who assures me that I’m not in the fight alone!!!

    The bigger picture is the message from the music. If we dislike people based on our own beliefs, WHO’S LEFT, NO ONE!!!

    Stay focused, always look at the BIGGER PICTURE.

    “Easy to dislike, the challenge is to find something you do like and continue to.”

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    • June,
      Erykah is a talented entertainer. I agree. Did you read my article where I mentioned this? I will write a blog about “judging” this term irks my nerves to no end. I would like to hear what you had to say about the octuplet mother as well.

      So if someone kills someone else…will you say “I’m not going to judge?” No one likes it when someone says that they are wrong. I don’t wish any harm or less wealth for Ms. Wright. (her real name). You seem to echo what I’ve been saying but coming up with a different conclusion…”I love having a free mind” Me too. Then you should love not following a celebrity’s lifestyle or agreeing with it just b/c they are a celebrity. We are having a discussion about influences NOT persuasion. Please go back and read article.

      Another question, can you be inspirational on one hand and representing the opposite on another. Take a rapper for instance…either that are going to be HARD core rappers or NOT. They can NOT make a career as both. They must maintain validity. So…I guess the question is can Erykah remain valid if her public image says the opposite?

      I think the BIG PICTURE is lost here. It’s unfortunate.

      I have NO Dislike for Erykah. Where was that stated? What are you responding to. Please read article BEFORE commenting b/c it misleads other commenters. Thank you for your well-thought out response.

      I’m just TElllin It Like it T-I-Tiiz!!

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  19. Add on:

    This seems to always help.

    Anytime you stop thinking for yourself, and have some else think for you.

    Stop and think of the movie “The Matrix.” (If you haven’t seen it, then you should).

    In the morning remember to swallow the RED pill !!!!

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  20. “Kiss My Placenta”
    You are brilliant, Ms.Badu!

    I envy the wonderful way you are raising your children.
    to be strong and proud and not sheep.

    I am the only widow at my son’s school.
    (They prefer 2 parent facade families.
    And my kid is top of his class 6 out 6 years of school.

    Still, I get random “good intentions” on how my not running around looking for a husband is going to adversly affect my son’s growth.

    We are blessed with great friends, male and female, as positive role models in our daily lives. And that seems to work for us.

    Children are more aware than we give them credit for.
    If they are raised in a pretense of happiness,
    they never learn to be truly happy in their own life.

    Each family is unique. And as long as there is love and respect,
    Beautiful, brilliant, independent children are the reward.

    Bless you, Eryka!!

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    • So…are you saying that children shouldn’t be raised in happiness S. Kaur? I’m confused? Children don’t have a choice. What about the Octagon mother…do you agree that she should have 8 children in addition to her 6. Do you think she alone can give them the love and attention that they need and deserve? How old are you?

      HOW DO YOU KNOW ERYKAH IS RAISING HER KIDS “WONDERFULLY”.

      My son’s father died when he was 7 so I empathize. However, I still believe he DESERVES some balance in his life that a significant other can give. Yes, he got a 31/36 on his ACT but, that does not fill a void. I can NOT teach him to be a man. Does that mean I need to go out and “FIND” a husband? No that means that if the opportunity presents itself…WE / HE enjoys a better life…with balance.

      Don’t let female independence get confused with with circumstance! Congratulations on your son sucesses!

      You know what I got to do…Tell it like it T-I-Tiz!!

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  21. Without getting ink any detail of my expriences I’ll just state my ever progressing beliefs.. 1ST OFF YOUR BACK YARD BETTER BE CLEAN B4 U START BLOWING UP ON YOUR NEIGHBOURS. ESPECIALLY SOMEONE WHO IS CONSTANTLY PROMOTING PEACE LOVE AND RESPECT FOR ALL! She’s got her blessings and her challenges (children are blessings: even better when concieved hroigh sober love) conventional norms and vices are improbable, u usually gotta trade surface happiness for true happiness everyones shit stinks and it what u do with it.. (gotta use cliches to sleek to he masses).
    If you can only see the problems in her life then u know u got some work to do in yours simply put u can’t cast stones unless your surrounded by em.. If u realm listened to what she been saying you’d know that her kids are gonna be fine. They will know their past and control their future. Masts teachers!
    Ps saw erykah in van and was love

    Keep talking yo shit Badu
    Peace n love

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    • I think you heat the nail on the head Ali!! Should Erykah practice what she preaches? Should no one point out the fact that she exudes positivity but her actions say otherwise? Do you know that African American females represent 65% of NEW cases of HIV? Not only does this say I don’t wear a condom, it says be irresponsible and nobody should say anything about it? It’s not about casting stones…it IS about what our young women are deeming accepting and how it affects them.

      Are you saying you blindly follow someone b/c they are a celebrity? If this was Sha-nae-nae down the street, I don’t think she would get the same pass!!! I’m just tellin’ it like it T-Tiiz!!

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  22. It is amazing how much time people spend coming on this board trying to “crucify” Ms. Badu with regards to her lifestyle etc… I dont see how anyone can try to judge her in the way she is being judged. She is not responsible for all the negativity that pervades the Black community. Responsibility is birthed and taught by the parents within the Black community, not celebrities. Dont try to leave parenting up to the NFL players, the rappers, the songstresses.

    The messages on this board are a lame attempt at buck passing. If people feel she is portraying a negative image for their children, then they should not let their children watch her or listen to her music. How many of these industry cats get married and have children by the same person and those kids are real basket cases. There is no set formula for family success. One common denominator, though, proven time and again, is a love for children. She has that and that is all that matters.

    Grow up!! We have 99 problems in our community and who Ms. Badu sleeps with or have her children by is not one of them.

    I get so tired of all the judgemental A-holes in society who spend 99% of their time trying to characterize other people, without taking a look in their own backyards. Dont try to base your parenting inadequacies demonstrated through your delinquent youth, on who Ms. Badu is banging.

    This thread is retarded and a REAL WASTE of time.

    Go catch a Pedophile to burn at the stake… That’s the real threat to your children…

    Truly,

    Whatever, M.D., M.B.A.

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    • Whatever…the “industry cats” aren’t preaching positivity. That’s why this is a discussion. I think part of the problem in the community is NO ACCOUNTABILITY that’s usually b/c of things people have in their own closet. Therefore we have the “whatever” attitude. If the thread was so unimportant…why respond?

      Are we reaaallly burning Ms. Wright/Badu at the stake? or are we having a solid discussion like intellectually sound adults are able to do. Or would you censor us? Please don’t be a drama Queen Dr. That’s just my take from one Physician to another!!

      If you have deduced that we are talking about WHO she is sleeping with as the TOPIC of this discussion here I think YOU have missed the point my dear! We welcome your full participation in a discussion not your dismissal of what others may perceive as a possible problem in our community (you might liken this with barriers in medicine you see. It may even be “perception”). I hope this not common practice of yours…dismissing what may be important to others.

      I’m just tellin’ it like it T-I-Tiiz!!!, M.D., M.A.T., S.A, (and I did it as a single mom)! Don’t get it twisted!!!!

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  23. to tiiz:

    Do you know Erykah personally to know the exact circumstances as to why she raises her kids in the way and environment that she does? Did she call you up and tell you who she let smash and whether or not she used protection? Did she call you and tell you she got knocked up? Did she let you know that she wanted a baby and she was gon’ have one with the next man she was with? Did she tell you otherwise?

    Everybody is entitled to their own opinion and everyone will judge any and everything because the bottom line is that our judgement determines how we live our lives. But what I don’t think you are understanding is that you don’t know enough to be so adamant about the terrible example that she is setting. With some rappers, we clearly see that they may talk about toting guns and owning blocks but in reality, they’ve never lived, or even experienced, that type of lifestyle. It’s hard to justify that because it’s a blatant situation. But in Ms. Badu’s case, we have no proof or evidence of what is going on in her personal life, or any celebrities personal life for that matter, because we don’t know. All we know is what we hear in her songs and the bits and pieces she may reveal or what’s written in pieces about her.
    And last, but certainly not least, even celebrities have a right to live their life the way they want to. Even the most vile rappers that I think are terrible role models have the right to lead they lives they choose. We can’t force them to change because of our convictions, just like we can’t change the people in our own lives just because we think we “know” what’s best for them. At the end of the day, the question is “What are you gonna do about it.” If you wanna stop listening to her music, do so. You could try and start a revolution if you wanted. But at the end of the day, if you know Badu as well as you say you do, you know it will make her no nevermind because she is living for her, not for the “her” we think she is or want her to be.

    When she does finallly hit you up, let us all know!! We want to know what’s goodie, too!!

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  24. Erykah is a leader in my world and, in turn, her children/life choices are sacred to me! Thank you for being yourself Badu!

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    • Refer to already said statements….Brainwashed, follower, Stand for nothing fall for anything…yadda, yadda, yadda. I really tire of this conversation. I think I will no longer talk about this subject.

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  25. I think Miss Badu is a grown up woman who is more than capable to make her own discissions. If she chooses to have children with different fathers and she and her children are happy with it. So be it. It’s their lifes, not ours. Let’s concern about our own! Maybe they are more happy then people in a married life…….. and so called stability with both parents. What kind of example do children get when they see their parents argue or worse, fight (I see examples daily at my job).
    Erykah go sister. You will always get comment whatever you’ll do. People will always judge you for it!

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    • I AM SOOOOO tired of this discussion. Another brainwashed person…so be it. Again, if this was your sister…so…you agree with the Octuplet woman too. Good for you. Just go have lots of babies and teach them that you are not suppose to try to bring balance to their lives. They will hate you for it later. I’m just doin what I do. There should be moral standards that everybody lives up to (and fail at some of the time). If you STAND for nothing…you’ll fall for anything! I live by that quote!

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    • I don’t think we are questioning whether or NOT she is capable of making her own decisions rather do they reflect what she promotes. If your car company promotes safety and they produce unsafe cars as a regular practice…wouldn’t you question them as a company?

      Are you saying NOT to strive for 2 happy parents. Is this what it comes down too. No…making the right choices UPfront…might be what we as a community need to practice to avoid bringing children into this world as an after thought and rather a planned part of a healthy relationship. YES WE CAN I SAY!!!

      Have faith LadyS!!! (love that by the way)

      I’m just tellin’ it like it T-I-Tiiz!!

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  27. i know i am so late in posting my response but as the old saying goes, better late than never ever! I would 1st like to commend my sista Erykah (who I will be partying with next month) for intelligently defending herself. I would, however, like to offer my 4 cents. Being a daughter of a strong, beautiful, brilliant, (and fly as hell) mother who had children with three men, i must admit there were awkward times that i’m not sure she was even prepared to deal with – particularly in terms of how her decisions TRULY impacted her children and how they played out in our lives. She (along with our dads) have always taken extremely great care of us emotionally, spiritually, and financially however, there were times when i pained about things that probably never would have been an issue. something as simple as having a different last name from my siblings would cause me much internal pain and feelings of being somewhat disconnected. And let’s not forget about when we referred to each others dad’s as “your father”. And the times when one father was at times more available than the other and although they were all very present and of great character, there are just times when it is what it is. nevertheless i do know, from women like my mother, that its not what you do but how classy you do it. she handled business and epitomized class and if nothing else, she made it blatantly obvious that her children – not a man – were always her 1st priority and she set the tone for how men treated her and us.

    a word to the wise Badu…do what you do but please consider the small stuff! Luv u sistah girl and i’ll see you August 8th!

    the onederful

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    • Thank you soooo much for your comment!! It gleaned a different perspective…the child’s point of view. Based on your response, I’m sure you had a classy mom. It sounds to me like you GOT the big picture. Many people would like to believe I’m singling Erykah out. I am not. She was a topic of debate…so I am debating. Not only that, there is a social construct and a public awareness of her personal life whether we want to admit it or not. I think our parents sometimes get so wrapped up in doing what’s right for “THEM” that they forget about the unforeseen things…like father’s day…parent teacher conferences…going to other people’s houses etc…as kids, most of the time we just want to fit in. Sometimes that MAY be difficult when our family doesn’t fit the typical mode. You brought up an even bigger underlying point about family dynamics between the different father. What if my dad takes me on great trips every time he visits. Your dad can’t afford to do so. The third day is not as present because he works a lot. I can only imagine. It’s enough to jungle one guy in my life….multiple? My question to you would be, would you change anything about your life? HOW did your family life impact your relationships? Would you recommend your family make-up as the status quo?

      P.S. I would visit your site but I haven’t figured that out quite yet.

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  29. I have to say that I think it’s unfair to ask people to comment if they would like to and then become defensive and state that they do not HAVE to comment if they don’t want to when they do respond. It’s a part of human nature to defend one’s self and one’s own personal situation. I agree that celebrities make the choice to become famous; however they are somply making a living based on their talents and the cards that they played in life just like most people in this world are doing. I understand where you are coming from with the effect that it can have on the children; however I don’t think that a lot of people are taking into consideration what Erykah is saying. She stated that all of the fathers of her children are actively involved in their child’s life and that they all as a family unit have good relationships with one another. I have to agree with one person who commented regarding the difference in ages of Erykah’s children, I don’t think she is frivolously jumping in and out of relationships, but that’s my opinion and not fact, but then again, how much of what has been written here can be proven? I guess in the end, all you can do is try to be a good mother. I am 25 and pregnant with my first child and am engaged to my unborn daughter’s father. I look forward to having a long, happy life with him and my child(ren) however if that does not work out, no matter how hard I try, I will not give up on life and refuse to have more children or be happy again. I’m not saying that’s what you’re suggesting, at all, but it seems that Erykah is trying to make herself into the best mother and person that she can be. I think the unfortunate part of being a celebrity is the fact that your life is public but no one really knows the intimate details. I know I’ve gone on for a long time, but I’m big on not judging folks, because I don’t want to be judged. Although we all know that throughout the course of living your life, you’re going to be judged, whether you know 2 people or 2,000,000 people. At the end of the day, you have to be able to look yourself and those you are responsible for in the eye and be confident in the decisions you have made.

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    • Divine,

      Thanks for leaving a comment. I had said that this topic was getting OLD and I didn’t want to comment further b/c it was getting old but it seems to be important to people b/c they keep feeling the need to leave a comment.

      1st) The need for this quote: “THIS IS A DISCUSSION ABOUT CELEBRITY BIAS…IF YOU DO NOT WANT TO DISCUSS IT…THEN DON’T COMMENT IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO DISCUSS IT PLEASE COMMENT BELOW.- TIIZ” Was b/c people like to comment and then say I don’t know why you’re commenting, which I think is redundant (just like the quote). Blogging is meant to foster conversation, which is what I’m doing. I don’t think it was defensive b/c no one had said anything yet..there was no offense for a defense! It was to STOP the silliness before it happened!

      2nd) Congratulations!!!! on your pregnancy. Children are precious jewels and should be treated as such!

      3rd) Celebrities: My point about celebrities…we discuss them b/c our society has made them points of interest. How many times have you Googled your favorite people?

      4th) Active Involvement of the children has previously been discussed. I think we got to the point where we talked about HOW active can a father be in Atlanta and I’m in Dallas, it’s 3AM in the morning and he or she is sick? How much money you have does not make a difference when you need to be THERE for your child. You’ll get the luxury of discovering the importance of 2 parents at 3AM as soon as you have your first (believe me it’s fun–I’m joking!).

      5th) It sounds to me that you’ve thought about the importance of FAMILY. In fact, you’re making my point by striving for it.

      I think people miss the point that this is a DISCUSSION. This is NOT about Judging but about questions of CHANGE and Community. Should our practice be to continue to have kids out of wedlock like it’s NO BIG DEAL and it’s my life, my choice. The other side to the coin is that BLACK females are contracting HIV at a higher rate close to those people in 3rd world countries. African-Americans make up 12% of this country, yet 65% of NEW cases of HIV are African American females. Having children out of wedlock is not just about having babies – people are NOT using condoms. People are DYING!!!! Most of these are younger than 25yo and they are raising children without fathers 70% of the time with young mothers who have fewer resources and fewer tools to give children. Can we afford our few role models (whether they want to be or not & whether they SHOULD be or not) to perpetuate unsafe sex practices as well as create unprepared families! (mentally & monetarily)

      So again, this is not about “judging”. No one WANTS to be judged. Everyone wants to do what they want to do and feel its the right thing and have no one ask – Was that the right thing to do? This discussion was meant to be about the BIG picture.

      Thanks for joining in the conversation.

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  30. woderfullymade

    Who are we to pass judgment on this woman and her having 3 diffrent fathers. God is our maker and he made her children and gave them to her. We do not know her future and what God plans for her while she is on earth. He is the only one who come to her and ask her questions and pass his judgement. Do not be quick to respond because you do not know what you would do if you walked in her shoes. There is a right and wrong choice and we decide the path we are going to take and if its wrong then that person goes through it…. life is to short to worry bout her baby daddys…worry about if you are going to make the correct choices 2marrow and be happy with it….. God forgives us when we ask so show the same respect to the next person who is made of flesh and YOU feel like that it was a mistake! Obviously she is happy and Loves her children so let Go and Let God….He makes no mistakes…Leave Ms Badu alone… Famous and Celebrity is Title given to you by somebody else…..She is Woman-made of flesh who has a WOMB…..so she bared children…SO WHAT!! Last time I checked none of us can walk on water!
    Yall Be Blessed!

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    • Wonderfully Made (I love that),

      I don’t think this is a question of “judgement.” I think we are discussing the ramifications of celebrity actions and whether or not there is a BIG picture here. In my humble opinion, the BIG picture is that multiple children out of wedlock may send the wrong message to a lot of youth. Rather than repeat myself, I will copy and paste what I wrote to Divine:

      I think people miss the point that this is a DISCUSSION. This is NOT about Judging but about questions of CHANGE and Community. Should our practice be to continue to have kids out of wedlock like it’s NO BIG DEAL and it’s my life, my choice. The other side to the coin is that BLACK females are contracting HIV at a higher rate close to those people in 3rd world countries. African-Americans make up 12% of this country, yet 65% of NEW cases of HIV are African American females. Having children out of wedlock is not just about having babies – people are NOT using condoms. People are DYING!!!! Most of these are younger than 25yo and they are raising children without fathers 70% of the time with young mothers who have fewer resources and fewer tools to give children. Can we afford our few role models (whether they want to be or not & whether they SHOULD be or not) to perpetuate unsafe sex practices as well as create unprepared families! (mentally & monetarily)

      So again, this is not about “judging”. No one WANTS to be judged. Everyone wants to do what they want to do and feel its the right thing and have no one ask – Was that the right thing to do? This discussion was meant to be about the BIG picture.

      Thanks for joining in the conversation.”

      I would like to know what it means to pass judgment? When can people be held accountable for their actions? In fact, should celebrities ever be held accountable? Do they have a responsibility?

      Finally, are you saying God wants us to create families with multiple fathers and mothers since children are gifts? Please clarify.

      Are you also saying Erykah didn’t seek celebrity status or fame? No one has to sell their music? You can make a video and not release it if you so choose. I’m not sure if she was just Given that title. Mother Theresa or the Dali Lama maybe…but Erykah?

      I’m just sayin’ – Tiiz Thanks for stopping by and taking the time to comment. Conversation…is good.

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  31. I am not here to bash anyone, we are all sinners and are filthy rags in the eyes of GOD, but however because we all are sinners doesn’t give us the right to continue sinning!!! The woman who was caught in adultery and was brought before the LORD to be stoned was forgiven by the Lord, this is very true and in my heart feel this is the attitude many of Erykah Badu fans have on here. I keep hearing she is not perfect and were not, I keep hearing we should not judge other people and we should not! I keep hearing that Erykah is a grown woman which she is and she is free to do what she pleases!!! Now coming from a biblical truth, do not put GOD in bringing children into this world without marriage, MAN can twist GODS word all the way around the world all day, but one thing will remain concrete and will not change and that is GOD!! I am guilty of fornication and adultery as painful as it is to admit, I was fortunate not to get anyone pregnant, but I had a thorough understanding of what GOD meant when he told us not to fornicate. Explanation: If we did not fornicate or commit adultery or molest children which is utterly disgusting, there would be no 1. STD’s 2. Murders and Assaults would decrease drastically (most men and women die over some type of relationship issue dealing with sex before marriage) 3. MOST IMPORTANTLY there wouldn’t be any kids out here without Fathers or Mothers (Death is the exception) 4. We wouldn’t be concerned about which women has the wettest coochie or the tightest, and which man has the biggest d***, because we would all be virgins and when we marry whoever we were with and that person would be the ultimate because it would be all we would know!!! It would be like falling in love with your real first, because you would have prayed and GOD would send you your wife and it would be all good. Now this is why GOD frowns on divorce because you have grabbed another apple off of the tree and you will have known another man/woman in which your curiosity will drive you to want another and another!!! In which we constantly keep breaking his law and now you see the utter chaos we are in now, it is ridiculous, we are teaching our kids the wrong thing, I love Erykah and her children and may GOD BLESS THEM, but as far as is it morally correct from a Christian viewpoint!! NO!! Did GOD ordain it NO!! But I wish her the best in a successful career, but I cant sit back and let a misconception of GOD be preached and not say anything. SO TIIZ I agree with you and will ride out with it! To Erykah and family be blessed!! No love lost here!

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  32. yvonnenicolejacksoninomahane

    SENDING LOVE NRG OUT TO YOU SISTER ! I LOVE YOU! WE AREONE!!!!!! TOALL THE HURTING BLACK WOMEN HURT BRAINWASHED AND LIED TO ABOUT YOUR TRU ESSENCE I LOVE YOU AND MAY THE LIGHT OF ALL SHINE ABUNDANTLY !!!!

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    • yvonnenicolejacksoninomahane

      MOST WOMEN ARE SLAVES TO MEN BECAUSE THEY DO NOT KNOW WHO THEY TRULY ARE STRESSIN WONDERN WHEN THEY MAN COMIN HOME THROWING UP HAVING THREESOMES KILLIN YOURSELF BECAUSE MOST OF YOU ARE DEALING WITH DISFUNCTIONAL MEN FROM THE JUMP. OUR CULTURE AND HISTORY HAS BEEN ROBBED AND WE ARE CLUELESS!!!

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  33. Let the woman live her life! Stop wasting your time on pointless bullshit and focus on your self – the betterment of yourself!

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  34. You ladies are out of your minds!!

    Stop approving Badu because you want to justify your own whore behavior.

    You can continue with the foolishness of justifying your single parenthood existence or be a real woman, really love your children, and take the time to marry a decent guy, not a thug or idiot who tells you he wants you to have his baby.

    Have your kids within your marriage.
    Work on your marriage. Stop getting divorced for crazy reasons.

    Yes, people make mistakes, but stop compounding them with 2 or more children with different fathers. Sometimes your trifling asses don’t even know the father. Admit that you had no example or a bad example and seek to rectify that crap. Don’t look to repeat it. Since you want to play grown ass woman, grow the f*ck up!

    Grown people take responsibility for their actions, and don’t compare themselves to others who are also doing f*cked up sh*t.

    Grown people who care about their children, stop the dumb crap and stop arguing to support a whore lifestyle. Yes, and sleeping with multiple men is whoring, I don’t care what you say.

    People who really love their children ACTIVELY seek and PLAN to do more for their children than was done for them.

    Yes, I am saying that if you have a bunch of kids with no father IN the home, you don’t care about your kids. Yes that is exactly what I am saying. I am not counting fathers who visit or buy pampers. I’m talking about fathers in the home, struggling with your tired tail, raise his kids.

    When you find a real man, he will sacrifice to take care of his and maybe someone else’s, if you act right. But no, your butt doesn’t want that. You think getting pregnant by some light skinned negro with good hair is the ticket. Or getting pregnant by some married man is the ticket. Idiot.

    Don’t tell me about birth control failures either. If you don’t have sex until after you are married you needn’t worry about that. Please don’t tell me that that is unrealistic. It’s very realistic for those who determine not to have sex until marriage.

    For the Christians: Stop running to churches that allow you to wallow in sin, and don’t demand that you come OUT of that sin. Every church I’ve visited in the last year is a sanctuary for whores and drug addicts, not a one trying to change their behavior. What a shame. When Jesus talked to the adulterous woman He said — Go and sin no more. Do you notice that is a command to stop the dumb sh*t?

    Why did God destroy a civilization? Sexual sin. Sodom and Gomorrah were wiped out for sexual sin. Not theft. Not uncontrolled acne. Not bad fashion. Sexual sin. Preach that to the flock on Sunday.

    Since you want to call on Jesus, follow that. Tiiz is telling you the truth but you want to wallow in your mess so you object. And know that all of your excuses for being a single parent are just that, excuses to stay in that condition. Because you are too lazy to do the hard work it takes to make a better life, because you have a cacophony of friends and associates who pat you on the head when you complain of how hard your life if as a never been married or divorced parent.

    Don’t talk to me because I don’t do that. You have the life YOU chose and argued for. Live it.

    Worthlessness is what you display to the world. You are disease ridden–herpes, chlamydia, HIV, HPV — but are too ashamed to tell anyone so you spread it, and then want to get upset when disease free men want nothing to do with you. Ha ha haaaa!! You must be joking!! No one has to deal with that.

    Yes, I am judging you because someone needs to. I don’t advocate abortion, but I find it so hypocritical that everyone finds Jesus AFTER they are pregnant but never BEFORE they lay on their back!! Fornication is a sin as well.

    Don’t have sex until you are married. It’s not that hard. Don’t believe the hype. Do you hang around people who are having sex? Don’t. Get a new group of friends who have goals in life. If you have goals in your life, you won’t mess them up with having kids without a husband.

    Go to college and get a degree. Everyone is college material. Stop the lie. Have goals other than getting pregnant.

    Do you know that black woman are more likely to give up sons rather than daughters in adoption? What does that say about the probability that your daughter will find a good black man?

    We need to wake up ladies. You control the board. Men can’t be whores, if you’re not a whore first.

    Stop using God’s forgiveness as a reason to be trifling for life. He expects more from us.

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  35. I love u erykah! And I support u sista! Don’t allow the ignorance of ppl’s miserable and negative comments to take u from your center. Best wishes sista! Hotep! —asmaa’a

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  36. ALL YOU BASTARDS NEEDS TO STAY OUT OF PEOPLE’S PERSONAL LIVES. IF IT WERE YOU BEING HOLD UNDER THE MICROSCOPE I DOUBT IF YOU WOULD BE SO QUICK TO JUDGE!! IF SHE DECIDES TO HAVE 20 MORE KIDS IT’S NONE OF YOUR FUCKING BUSINESS!! SHE HASN’T ASKED ANY OF YOU SELF-RIGHTEOUS BORED LONEY BASTARDS TO CONTRIBUTE AND DIME OR ANY TIME TO THE RAISING OF HER CHILDEN. WHAT THE PROBLEM IS PEOPLE SO QUICK TO JUDGE AND KNOW DAMN WELL THEY ARE FUCKED UP IN LIFE BUT IT’S EASIER TO POINT OUT SOMEONE ELSE’S FLAWS THEN TO ADDRESS YOUR OWN. TAKE YOUR TIRED WORTHLESS ASSES SOMEWHERE AND GET THE LOG OUT OF YOUR OWN EYE BEFORE YOU TRY TO WORRY ABOUT THE STICK IN SOMEONE ELSE’S. I BET ANY AMOUNT OF MONEY THAT “HER” CHILDREN WILL BE MORE WELL ROUNDED AND ACCEPTING OF OTHER PEOPLE’S SHORT COMINGS THEN ANY OF YOUR SMALL-MINDED ILL EQUIPED KIDS. YOU ALL ARE PROBABLY RAISING A BUNCH OF HATEFUL LITTLE BASTARDS THAT WON’T ABLE TO ADAPT TO LIFE OUTSIDE OF YOUR SMALL-MINDED WORLD BECAUSE YOU DON’T HAVE WHAT IT TAKES TO MAKE THEM BETTER PEOPLE THEN YOU ARE. MIND YOUR FUCKING BUSINESS AND FOCUS ON BETTERING YOURSELF OUR YOUR LIFE AND LET MS. ERYKA BADU RASIE HER KIDS AS “SHE” SEES FIT.

    ERYKA, DO YOU HONEY THESE PEOPLE ARE THE ONES THAT “DON’T” MATTER AND NEVER HAVE!! THEY CAN’T FIND A KIND WORD BECAUSE THEY HATE THEIR OWN LIVES AND IT’S MAKES THEM FROM LIKE SOMETHING TO ATTACK SOMEONE ELSE’S. MS. BADU LIVE LIFE, LAUGH A LOT, AND LOVE FOREVER!!! AND FUCK THE HATERS!!!

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